Thread: Sizeisim

Has anyone ever had to deal with sizeisim (I really don't know if thats spelt right, lol) and what can you do about it??

I'm really s***ing myself about it, just in case.

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As a distinctly curvy performer I've dealt with it in a few other genres but I'm delighted to report that I've never had a problem with sizeism at all in burlesque.

Well thats good

But how did you deal with it in the other genres? Due to my nature i know i shouldn't give a damn about my body, I love it, end of. But I have put on a few pounds..........ok........stone since getting pregnant with my last baby (she's a year old now). But it took me 5 years to get back to my pre pregnacy weight after my first (I'v got 3 bubs algether), so i'm aware that some people might not think my curves are sexy.

Ministry Of Burlesque Community - Curly Tale Mini-Documentary

check out the above video . .

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the only person who has ever told me I was too fat to do burlesque or nude modeling was my husband's ex-mother-in-law. otherwise, I've heard a lot of feedback about how refreshing it is to see a burlesque performer in our area who isn't pole thin, or really should just keep their clothes on. (as of Wednesday, I'm at 38/33/38 uncorseted.)

I have experienced it but not in England and to be honest its a bit of a weird club with a mainly drunk male crowd. You have to brush these things off and get on with life but it can be tough.
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Diva x

Having struggled with body issues for years, the conclusion I've come to is this: sometimes you just need to accept that there's no way *everyone* is going to find you attractive. Different strokes for different folks, and all that. Just remember all that great feedback you've had, and know that there are loads of people out there who think you're gorgeous. Then think of the prettiest girl you can, and realise that there are loads of people out there who think she's hideous.

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Thanks for that link, Red Sarah - really interesting. I've read quite a bit about the 'Beef Trust' burlesque troupe and slimmer women's attempts to join by lying about their weight and padding themselves out, and it was great to finally see photographs. Having struggled with my body image a lot when I was younger, I have to admit that even the positive comments I've had about it being 'refreshing' to see a 'normal' sized woman performing have made me feel uncomfortable at times. God knows how I'd have dealt with anything negative... I think I'm slowly making the transition from thinking, 'OK, at least my body's not holding me back', to, 'Actually, maybe some people do want to see it!' Having come from a more traditional dance and performing arts background, I have to admit that burlesque offers me the chance to do things that I otherwise might have had little chance of.

I am someone who really worries about my size, I was anorexic for most of my young life weighing at my most 7 1/2 stone and having a 22" waist.

I had a 10lb 11 baby boy 9 years ago when I was 20 (gosh showing my age now!), I lost all my pregnancy weight very quickly, but I was a gymnast so lots of exercise! But because I had been so small and my son so big I now have loose skin on my tummy (it is quite bad as it sags and is very unnatractive), the Doctor has told me surgery is the only option.

Then I was diagnosed with a degenerative illness and a stupid Doctor gave me tablets that made me go from a size 10 to a size 18 in 3 months! Anyway it got sorted and I shed most of the weight but it has changed my body figure permanently, I intake about 300-400 calories a day and still dont lose weight my Nutrisionist is scratching her head

Sorry to have babbled on I will get to the point ...I am now 39(36D) - 28 - 39 without my corset (currently going down to a 26" waist with corset), I personally hate my body I feel fat and overweight (probably the anorexic in the back of my mind) and I have had a really bad experience with several people about my size and it has really hurt! I generally wear baggy clothes around the house now and wont let my husband see me naked, and I am fairly sure thats not healthy.

I really hoped Burlesque would make me feel sexy, but so far it has only worked for very short periods of time, then I feel ashamed of my body and cover up again, I am not a pretty girl but I always used to be slim and that was kind of my attractive feature, I even catwalked at London Fashion Week when I was in my late teens, now I dont have the looks or the slim model body.

For those of you with sexy curvy figures (and I do think you are sexy!) hold on to that confidence, you are beautiful and dont let anyone tell you different. If any of you know the secret to having confidence please pass it this way.......

Hey Lola, really wish I could wave a magic wand for that one, but I know sometimes it doesn't matter what anyone else says. I too went from having an eating disorder and being very underweight to having an illness that caused me to gain 2 stone over the course of less than a month, and it's taken the best part of 10 years to begin to accept that this is me now, and even then I still have crappy days... Stay positive x