Thread: Ever Been Used...In The Burlesque Sense?

[QUOTE=Glorian Gray;112116]However, I began to notice a pattern wherein they were super nice to me when new and getting information off me, and once they had done a few gigs, hanging out with "bigger fish" they went sort of cold, a bit aloof, sometimes even making little putty downy comments etc. This always hurt and puzzled me! I wasnt sure if it was because they were trying to assert their new importance by being off with someone who had seen them when they were new, or what.QUOTE]


Thats how I see it. Anyway perhaps its best to vent and let go. I know who it is so now know to avoid them abit.

Originally Posted by geisha_go_disco

Eeek. Are you definately sure they said they could do a better job than you? Comments can change as they get delievered through the grape vine. Seems a very ungrateful thing to say. However, as i've learned in the past year, it's a very two-faced industry.

It's best if performers are careful to inform promoters they can ask "this list of people" for a reference of their performance rather than to say "So-and-so recommends me". So easy to get the message wrong!

I recommended this person for a job to a promoter and they were shocked I did so. They showed me what this person had sent to them about me. Now I can take criticism but this was pretty much trash Khandie. I guess the promoter shouldnt have showed me but felt strong enough that I should see.

As for the recommended by me thing...I am a tiny fish in a huge ocean so I guess being recommended by me is like being recommended what colour to paint my walls by my dad (100% colour blind!)

Anyway thank you all my darlings! I have vented and gained advice and cravings for bacon sandwiches (thanks Buck) and am now happy. xxxx

I just wanted to add - please don't change Khandie!

You are such a lovely person and a true breath of fresh air in a sometimes cutthroat world.

xxx

Originally Posted by MissDitzyDiamond

I just wanted to add - please don't change Khandie!

You are such a lovely person and a true breath of fresh air in a sometimes cutthroat world.

xxx

aahhh thanks Ditzy. To be honest I feel the same way about you. You have this fantastic bubbly energy that even our drunken nights at the posh (yeah) appartment it never changed...even after the Gu!

I have to agree with Ditzy - it would be a much horribler (waits for the grammar police to show up) world if we weren't nice to newbies and each other.

I think it's fair enough to ask about other shows, but there's a huge difference between someone asking for names of other good shows to try and contact and someone who thinks they deserve spoon-feeding 'phone numbers, email addresses etc and can't be bothered to get their finger out and do some research themselves like everyone else does.

Unfortunately there are those who are just on the make and are ridiculously nice to your face until they get what they want (I can instantly think of a couple), but we shouldn't become all cagey and protective with everyone else because of some bad eggs.....their time will deffo come....and networking and making friends and contacts in this community is one of the things that makes it such a wonderful place to be.

(Resisting the urge to ask Khandie who the naughty naughty person is....I'm missing out on all the good gossip being over the pond )

I miss you Tempest! Actually thinking of Arizona as a holiday LOL

I have to say its the one thing I absolutely detest about this business.
It's not needed.
I mean don't get me wrong - we can all feel jealousy at someone else expense. But it doesn't mean you have to poop on someone elses parade just cos you're green. Just improve your own game and you're sorted!

Originally Posted by Khandie Khisses

I miss you Tempest! Actually thinking of Arizona as a holiday LOL

Hotel Devyne is ready and waiting. We don't have Gu but there's loads of other naughtiness to be eaten and drunk here

Originally Posted by Khandie Khisses

Anyway thank you all my darlings! I have vented and gained advice and cravings for bacon sandwiches (thanks Buck) and am now happy. xxxx

Just don't tell my mum, I think if she knew I was eating pork it would kill her, she's already pissed off I can't get buried in a Jewish cemetry with all my tattoos.