Thread: Frenemies

Hey guys,

I'm not going to go into too much detail and bore everyone but I've had a bit of a falling out with some people who I used to class as my 'best friends'.

They have been very childish and I've got to the point now where I actually don't want to be friends with them anymore as they cause me more grief than they're worth.

Do you think I'm being silly by stopping talking to them?? I just can't be bothered with all the bitchiness anymore, all they do is slag each other off and I know for a fact they do it to me when I'm not there.

Since I got into Burlesque about a year ago I've met so many lovely people and have made some close friends, would it be silly of me to burn my bridges with my 'ex' friends and concentrate on the people that actually make me happy???

Please help, I'm at my wits end!!!!


Lola P xxx

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Oh no! That's awful!
If I were you, I wouldn't contact them for a while and see if they get in touch with you first and what they have to say. If they don't they're obviously not worth your time - It is easier to say that though! I completely understand how you feel but your friends should make you happy and you should enjoy being in their company, that's why you choose to spend time with them.

Hope it all works out hun xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

I think sometimes you grow out of friendships even long term ones.People find new interests,new hobbies and with that brings a new group of friends.I have experienced the same thing but you have to move on and grow as a person.Sure i still keep up with old mates even if its just a text or email to say hello or something but you have to follow what you want to do and not worry about other people? Ok im rambling now!!

i found out recently that my friends who i thought were great and always was there for them, got together and decided to cut me out of the group.
the reason? my burlesque was going well and i was travelling the country happily, and they were all stuck in boring jobs or unemployed.
jealous much??
you're better off without those kinds of people, don't let them drag you to their level as you're obviously better than them and more mature.

Hi honey
people come and go out of your life but if they are true friends then you will have them forever.
Diva x

oh lola hun thats just awful... i really think just bide your time. you'll see if your friends are truly worth the effort if they contact you first.

On Saturday none of my long-time newcastle friends came to lotus because to be honest we're growing apart. like millie said a lot of it comes down to jealousy from being stuck in dead end jobs and also sometimes just general apathy...

you're a delight to be around so screw the lot of them if they don't realise that!

xx

Thanks guys, I know friendships don't last forever but I wasn't expecting things to turn so sour!

I thought we'd left school at the age of 16 but apparently not!?!


x

Sounds like you are maturing and they aint hun.Just do your thing and if they are true mates they will stick with you.If they bitch and stab you in the back well then were they really mates to begin with anyway?
Ant

Be very careful how you deal with this situation. I had a falling out with one of my best friends when I was in sixth form - it was the classic I was always there for her and got nothing back, she was very immature situation - and instead of causing a massive scene and arguing, I chose to simply stop speaking to her. Massive mistake, it just gave her an excuse to bitch about me to everyone else. In a couple of days, most of my girl friends had turned on me over what a bitch I was being to her, accusing me of turning the entire college into a 'war zone' and suchlike. I never said a bad word back, refusing to be drawn in, and spent most of my time with my male friends, who, thankfully, didn't care. but my silence didn't stop the nasty little rumours spreading ... At the time I thought I was dealing with things the best way I could, but it really wasn't the best way to go about it! I don't know how I'd do it differently though, so the only advice I can give you is - don't do what I did!

A friend is only a hug away x your to far away to actually cuddle so i made do x

Things will find a way of sorting themselves out.
It just takes time.