Thread: back stabbing

I've come in on this rather late, but just wanted to add a little *hug* of sympathy, I've had the same thing happen to me, luckily most of the important people they tried to slag me off too took little notice and on meeting me in real life realised their tales were untrue. Nasty gossip can hinder your career, burlesque should be a sisterhood, we should all support each other, there's no room for the schools 'mean girls' here!

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I hope you're feeling much better now. I don't really have anything new to add that hasn't already been said, but just to say that I concur! She sounds pretty immature to have to air her views on you to people you will be working with, or indeed anyone else you meet. Sometimes people do fall out or dislike each other, but you can always tell the petty ones from the mature ones because they can't keep their opinions to themselves. I believe if you don't like someone and you can't get over it, just avoid them. The fact that she talks about you so much and goes so far as to contact people you might work with shows that she is far too interested in you, and probably IS jealous.

What I hate most is that people like this never have the guts to tell you what their problem is. You say she won't even speak to you, so you won't even get an explanation from her. I knew someone like that once, someone I worked with, who told everyone she hated me. People would ask her "why?!" and she'd give some stupid reason like I'd bought a watch she liked in the shop(seriously) and they'd all laugh at her for it. I'd then get reports back about what she'd been saying. I had only ever been nice to her, and never got anything back, or she would speak to me with a "tone". So one day when she did this I confronted her and asked her what her problem was, and she said "nothing.. I..uh... just don't like working here..." and I thought "HA! JUST AS I THOUGHT, A COMPLETE COWARD!" After she got sacked from that job for her bad attitude (lol) she still told people who knew me that we "didn't get on" even though she had never tried to be friendly, it annoyed me so much. I did like her and want to be her friend before I realised she hated me.

Strangely enough, I met her at a club one night years on and she was all HIIII and bought me a drink. :S
Basically, from that anecdote, I can summarise that:

*Some people are just nasty and have no reasons or justification for it. If there is none, they will make something up.
*When you confront them about it they are rarely big enough to settle it like adults.
*The people that know you know what you are really like, and so the nasty person's opinion isn't likely to affect the relationships you already have.
*When they bitch about you in such an unwarranted fashion, people WILL think they're an idiot. Especially if they have stupid reasons for disliking you. And especially if they are meddling with your work which has nothing to do with them.

I had a bit of a rootle about and found her myspace - her blurb reads as insincere as a Miss World contestant! "My hobbies include helping old ladies across the road...." I think this girl will fast realise that the way to get on in life isn't to carry on like she's been doing.

I've had girls do this to me in the Leicester Modeling scene before and i know how hurtful it can be.
I can't work out why they do it? The only reason i can think of is that they're so jealous they're trying to be more successful than you by slandering you in this way, instead of realising that if they took that time they were spending bitching about you and used it to work on their own career, they would probly get much further!!

All in all you have to ignore it, if you try and get back at her, you'd only be making yourself look as sill as she does. If a photographer belives what she's saying, they're not worth working with anyway.

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