Thread: To talk about Burlesque or not that is the question

Hello everyone

Just wanted to run this one by you all and see what you think. I am a very outgoing and fun person, as we say in Ireland I just love the craic and havin a laugh. I will talk too anybody about anything ,not shy at all really, that is just me. I do tell people both men and women that I am very much into Burlesque.They do find it very interesting and imformative. Had a friend on the fone this morning saying that I should tone it down when talking to MEN about this subject, as it turns them on like crazy and they think I am up for a quick bonk, as this subject would suggest SEX. I dont think so, do you ?or is it just me. Men should be more in control of themselves then if that is the case. I thought this is just great WHAT A LAUGH. Honestly do you think I should tone it down I am only talking for God sakes and having fun. I am who I am and I dont think I should have to change that ,just sooooo I dont turn MEN ON.Ohhh I am just sooo wicked indeed. Any advice would be much appreciated on this subject.
Thanks Guys. Lol xxx

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You definitely shouldn't change who you are to suit others. If you're passionate about burlesque and like talking about it then go ahead! If that means people are going to get certain ideas about who you are as a person, then let them think what they want.

....Having said that, I personally don't tend to bring up the burlesque thing with people I've just met, and tend not to mention it at all unless I have to (if for example, someone asks what I've been up to at the weekend and I've just had a show). I'm not really sure why this is, I think it might be partly because I'm worried people will think I'm 'showing off' if I go on about it all the time, I also know it's not everyone's cup of tea. I'm also very wary of burlesque defining me as a person, I like to be Ginger some of the time, but other times it's nice just to be Vic.

Sorry I think I went off on a bit of a tangent there and don't really feel like I've answered your question very well! Best just to read my first sentence and discard the rest

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These men should realise that you're only after a bonk if you actually say, "Why yes, I'd love to do some naked horizontal jogging." Saying, "Oh, I like burlesque, hurrah, pasties!" isn't the same thing. It's a bit like a problem page letter I read years ago where a girl said "I tongue-kissed my boyfriend and now he thinks it means I want to have sex with him." Calm down, fellas! If someone is open in talking about things that have a shimmer of sex about them, it doesn't mean that they necessarily want to do the dirty with you, or that it means they're somehow of easy virtue. Flippin' nora!

Unless you've got your hand in their fly at the time, of course.

Originally Posted by Ginger La Rouge

You definitely shouldn't change who you are to suit others. If you're passionate about burlesque and like talking about it then go ahead! If that means people are going to get certain ideas about who you are as a person, then let them think what they want.

Seconded - I can't help but feeling that any guy who mentally translates the phrase "I'm a big fan of burlesque" into "I want to have sex with you" should not be allowed out in public without adult supervision anyway.

Certainly such a person is not someone who's opinion you need to worry about, let alone allow to dictate your behaviour!

Just enjoy being your outgoing, fun-loving self - life's too short to worry about what other people might/might not approve of! :winkgrin:

I agree that if a man, if anyone, judges you on this fabulous love of your's (biased? Me?!) then that is your problem. I do, however, think that some men do make assumptions. I know that, being single, when a guy gets to know me and I talk about this love of mine, they tend to get a bit titillated then almost overpowered it seems. I keep being told I am "Strong-willed". Ummmm ...

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I've always been very coy too with my vanilla friends. Only close friends have known. I'm a bit like Ginger when she says she doesn't say much incase it comes across as showing off. But, like her, I would say I was doing a show, but probably wouldn't go into much detail even then.

It's up to you whether you want to tell guys what you're doing and how soon. But for me, it might be too much information too soon is not my style, would be something I'd reveal slowly...oh, burlesque, there's time for tease!

Originally Posted by kitten kapers

I'm a bit like Ginger when she says she doesn't say much incase it comes across as showing off

Aye, my OH said this back when he was going out of his way not to tell his mates what I did. I thought he was ashamed of me. It turned out he thought saying 'my girlfriend's a burlesque dancer' or equivalent sounded like he was showing off, and come to that, showing off about something they wouldn't actually be that bothered about ^_^

Originally Posted by Fleur du Mal

Aye, my OH said this back when he was going out of his way not to tell his mates what I did. I thought he was ashamed of me. It turned out he thought saying 'my girlfriend's a burlesque dancer' or equivalent sounded like he was showing off, and come to that, showing off about something they wouldn't actually be that bothered about ^_^

Ditto for Mr Kapers!

Bloody hell, the amount of things I here guys say when i'm around! And I would never dream of telling them to change their topic!

I just think it's great that you talk about it openly!
I also tend to keep the fact that I perform burlesque quite quiet unless they ask, just in case it gets a bad reaction. I can be confident and outgoing as Crystal Cupcake but as 'Christine' I like to keep myself to myself really. I kind of like the fact that it's my little secret though Sometimes I sit in my university class and think 'heehee if only they knew!' It's like living two seperate lives!

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Woo I've met one or two 'you're a burlesque dancer so must be an easy girl to get into' kinda guys. YUK! Where do these boys come from...

Be yourself, its not your fault some boys are just silly and interprate things the wrong way! Hmm says a lot about their egos too doesn't it!