Thread: Being a working Parent......

Hello,

I just wanted to talk about being a working Mum......

When my daughter, Annabelle was born I started Annabelles Wigs, it had always been a dream to run my own business and I had always loved wigs and found when I was off on maternity leave I got the time to start setting it up... well most of the time it was in the middle of the night when she was crying!!.... but I still had the time to do it.

I have two now, Annabelle and Oscar (who is two months) and I love being a Mum and running my own business... but ohhhh I feel the guilt.......

Is it just me???... or do most working Mums feel it..... and I know I am lucky that I am at home working. I feel guilty as I dont think Im spending enough time with them... then I feel guilty as I need to do more work on the business.....

The thing is I so much enjoy them and running Annabelles Wigs, but then that little guilt monster comes creaping into my brain...... aghghg

Please tell me its not just me!!!!...

Claire
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I think it's a common problem for us mums. I have two little girls - 1 and 3, and I work part time, and work for my husband and I'm working on my burlesque. I constantly feel that I'm not giving enough to any area of my life.

Interestingly, I don't think my husband feels the same. Although he adores the girls, he doesn't seem to have the same angst.

I'm soon to embark on this track and add to the already growing amount of guilt that you feel as a parent! My maternity leave ends in May and I'm hoping to find a new job with more socialble hours. I'll be leaving my son with my parents who I have no concerns about their ability to care but still worry what he will think is happening and know it will take alot of getting used to for both of us!

As for Burlesque, I hope to return after I have settled back into regular work, and hope that I will be able to go out and come back again whilst he is in bed, and intend to use the ssane time to practise and make costumes etc!

But I do think that to work as a mother is a very good example to set for your children, many few mothers have the financial support to stay at home nowawdays and I believe that this will be more the case when our children are older. By working it shows that you will do anything to provide for your children and enrich their lives and it also show that you are more than a 2D care provider. Having interstes outside of the home and/or working can provide much diversion, interest and enjoyment for ourselves which feeds back into the home and benefits the child by you being happier and contented. You may also be able to share this with your child bringing your interests and experiences enriching thier own learning and interests....I hope anyway lol! X

Don't feel guilty! But I'm sure you will anyway!! As if what you do ultimately makes you happy and benefits your household then its got to be good for your children too?!

Mama XX

I have 3 children and when my youngest was about a year old I went back to work. The guilt was terrible! I hated leaving him with the child minder even though she was marvellous and was quite jealous of her!

After a few years of missing parents evenings and rushing from one end of town to the other constantly in a hurry I gave up work and became a stay at home mum until my youngest was in full time school and then went back to work in the fitness industry which meant that I could choose the hours I worked.

I now work for my local council teaching fitness classes and run my own pole dance classes as well as performing Burlesque so things have got far busier, but seeing as my kids are now 17, 13 and 11 they are more interested in seeing their friends than me these days anyway! I still get the guilt occasionally though!

I'm a single mother. I have a 3 year old daughter, and currently have custody of my nephew (9 monthes). I work full-time as a main bartender. Also I am currently housing both of my parents due to their individual illnesses. My mother works full time during the day, so she and my father share the children-duties at night when I am working. I am also trying to further my education. Although I'm not in school right now, it will be added to the list! I'm just beginning in Burlesque, so no performances any time soon. But the bar I work at is eager to have me do a few performances, but they're gonna have to wait til I got a routine put together that I think is public-worthy.

Between all of this, and everything that's happend in the past few years (close family deaths, family getting sick, baby-daddy drama, delinquent minor idiot of a sister, one whole year dedicated to working 3 jobs to uphold an entire household, etcetc), I've felt a lot of guilt about not being able to spend what I feel is adequate time with my daughter.
But, I sit back and think to myself - she has people around her all the time that love her. She knows I love her, and she loves me.
The thing that keeps me feeling ok about it all, is that no matter how much I have to do without her - I always, ALWAYS set time away in a day to spend with just me and her. That really helps me reassure myself! I hope my little rambling has helped, but no worries, you're not alone!

I think we all go through feeling guilty... in my last paid job before I started my own business I used to have to leave before the kids woke up in the morning. I used to call from work to say good morning to them before they went to school, and I hated it so much not being there. Now I work all hours on my own business - I am home all the time so I do see more of them, but I'm guilty of putting the TV on for them while I get some work done. If it's not one thing you feel guilty about, it's another... I have no idea why? As Devine said, I don't think dads feel that way, is it just us?


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