Thread: Confession/Problem

I am having a problem and I don't really know what I can do to really move on from it. I am not a large girl although I am on the larger size and I never feel like I am pretty enough to wear skirts or dresses, all the girls I see in the look like they are so comfortable and I always think they are pretty than me.

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aw hon, i'm sure youd look lovely in a skirt or dress. just set aside a day for shopping and trying on different styles and see what suits you. i see plenty of larger ladies wearing skirts and dresses and they look lovely, in fact its probably easier to find a flattering skirt/dress than trousers that tend to cling to unattractive places

i know what you mean about the envy thing though, i often get bad attacks at burlesque nights with so many beautiful ladies walking around, audience members as well as performers, and i just think "i dont deserve to be here, im never going to look like that". though as its a burlesque event i try to remind myself im there to see a show, not engage in a beauty contest!

I can sympathize, I have always had issues with how I look. Ironically I think its very little to do with how you actually look, but how you feel and how you carry yourself. I have had people compliment me when I feel I look awful or on photos I think are terrible- just shows that there is no one way to look good. In terms of dresses etc, I recommend going for circle skirt dresses, put a petticoat under, then it hides the tummy/bum and makes your waist feel smaller. If you dont like your arms you can wear a cute little shrug or cardy. Thats my favourite outfit style, I cant do tight fitting unless no one ever sees me from the side :-).

Originally Posted by Burlesque Doll

I am having a problem and I don't really know what I can do to really move on from it. I am not a large girl although I am on the larger size and I never feel like I am pretty enough to wear skirts or dresses, all the girls I see in the look like they are so comfortable and I always think they are pretty than me.

Your only problem is prose! You're rather aesthetic, I'd say...

I've got news for you honey ... most of us feel like that every now and then! I'm terrible for it - if I try to pull off a particular 'look', for instance, a 50s inspired pinup cute look, or a rockabilly-ish look, then I get this nagging feeling that I just haven't managed it somehow. I see other girls who just seem to inhabit their own style and I feel clumsy and clumpy by comparison. It's very probably not the case at all, and it might well be that half of the girls I see think that I'm more comfortable with my look than they are with theirs! It's all a case of realising that although you might not feel particulalry gorgeous that day, it doesn't mean you don't look it ;-)

My top tip for the day is this: if you feel uncomfortable in skirts and dresses, build up slowly. Stay away from the circle skirts and anything floaty for now - if you're unsure of yourself they might feel a bit too 'girly' and certainly not very secure. Start off with a good structured pencil skirt or pencil dress, as form fitting as you dare. That way you'll get into wearing skirts but won't feel too exposed. Plus you can go down the vampish route and be sexy rather than cute, or you can go smart with a blouse and underbust corset. Then once you're more confident you can go with different shapes and styles. I used to wear jeans or trousers every day of my life, but since I discovered how great pencil skirts look I've got a wardrobe full of pretty dresses!

I would lay pretty good odds that the "pretty" girls you see wearing skirts et al feel uncomfortable more frequently than you do and probably throw envious glances in your way for having the courage to wear something a bit different!