Thread: First Date Etiquette - have I got it wrong?

Just been on a blind date - someone I met through an internet dating site. We've been writing for a month or so, ( he contacted me first) and have spoken briefly on the phone.
He's a real foodie, as am I, and was all keen to cook for me, but safety first, so I made it clear I wanted to meet in a public place, and suggested coffee or a drink.
He pressed for dinner, and suggested half a dozen central London restaurants for me to choose from, all of them very smart, all of them very pricey.

Since I knew what sort of place we were going to ( River Cafe) I booked a professional blow-dry, put on new tights, heels and a posh frock, and spent two hours getting dressed up, doing my make-up and nails etc.

I've just had a good meal but in really indifferent company - and when the bill arrived he put just less than half down on the table in cash. So I've had to pay out £85 for dinner, not to mention the money for the hairdressers etc. Plus he ordered the wine, water etc without consulting me.

I know that we live in liberated times, and that women should pay their way. Had we gone for a drink I would certainly have bought every other round. Had he asked for the bill I would certainly have offered my half. But I'm feeling really pissed off just now : the type of restaurant was his choice, and I went to a lot of effort and expense, when all he had to do was shower, shave and put on a clean shirt.

Am I wrong in feeling like this?

Viva

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hey chick ,

I think the fact he insisted on dinner and chose the restaurante is firm enough reasons to assume he'd be paying. I know i would have !!!!

i guess he wasn't all that cute or entertaining either !!!! and certainly not a gent !!

bummer

lady hugs

x x x

Didn't his mother teach him his manners?
I'm aggrieved on your behalf love xxx

Is romance dead? You deserve better than this and if this is his idea of how to treat a lady then you're better off without him.

Onwards and upwards lovely! xx

one word - NEXT!

Just one word- WOW

I maybe old fashioned but even now after 6 years and 2 kids when my fella takes me out he always pays, I cant believe this idiot,

The other girlies and yourself are right, time to move upwards, nothing wrong with a bit of spoiling, esp on the the 1st date since as you say we go to all the trouble to look so pwetty!

x

Sounds to me like he's been single for a long time and has gotten used to thinking in a self-oriented way...

Did you notice his saggy socks? I think he needs to pull them up before you go on a date with him again.

Awful behaviour! He's not worth your time and effort. Find someone who deserves you.

Thank you so much, lovely ladies : you are all absolutely right, and made me laugh lots!
I just needed to check that I hadn't totally lost my sense of proportion...

The ultimate irony is that he has e-mailed this evening to say what a wonderful time he had, and how he can hardly wait to have dinner with me again.

In his dreams.........

Onwards and upwards!

Vx

time to cut him loose I think! please post a picture so we can all be sure to avoid him (not really but it would serve him right!)