Thread: Boobs Pt2

Okay, so i dont hate my mammaries as much as i did before, thnks to you lovely ladies (and a couple of gentlemen!)

But i still feel a bit iffy.

Ya see, am i the only small busomed beautie that feels were being judged in society for whats on out chests?
An hourglass figure is the ultimate womanly shape, but nowadays, ya dont have an hourglass figure unless ya have giant boobs.

Well thats the way i feel.

I was just wondering if anyone else felt they were being judged because of the medias focus on page 3 girls, pole-dancers, etc, and how theyre attractive cos they have big boobs.

Or am i imagining the entire thing?

Also, im intrigued to find out what ya'll consider big and small?
In terms of bra sizes, wht do you consider to be two fried eggs, or a pair of watermelons?
(especially interested in guys opinions on this).

Cheers
Love to ya all
Tallula Torture
xoxo

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Hi sweetie,

Sorry to hear you're still feeling a bit self critical but you're feeling abit better, right??

The media is not to be trusted on this sort of topic as their opininon is always going to be skewed in favour of whatevers "hot"

Guys-well the guys that I know, would rather have a girl with small natural breasts than fake large ones-not sure if ALL guys are like that and Im not saying having or wanting implants is wrong. The main thing is your fiance loves you for YOU and that includes what you have :yes:

Im sure hes happy just to be close to you regardless of your size-and if he wasnt happy with your size then hes just silly and shallow :thumbsdown:

As for whats big and whats small? Think it depends on body shape, mine are relatively big as Ive a small waist (32D or 34C depending where I shop and my uncorsetted waist is 23") but it would vary

Hope your ok, just remember we all love you pet :hug:

Axx

Nope - I felt awkward for years because I had huge hips compared to my boobs. I was a 30B with 36 inch hips and I was pear shaped (still am). I once read that Kelly Brook had the perfect hourglass figure, and her waist and hip measurements were exactly the same as mine - but she was a 32E. I felt quite inadequate for a very long time, as I'd pretty much had pointed out to me that my figure was unbalanced and therefore wrong ...

Plus I was surrounded by men who extolled the virtues of big boobs, told me that men who say they prefer small boobs were lying to make me feel better, because all men prefer big boobs in reality, and, in the case of my brother, absolutely believed that the perfect body shape for a woman was super slim with big boobs (his criteria for girlfriends was apparently 6-8 with at least a C cup ... picky, eh?). So I felt pretty inadequate and rejected by society, as if I was being judged purely on my chest. The fact that I was pretty damn clever didn't matter a jot - no man looks for a girl with intelligence but no boobs, apparently ...

I seriously considered having a boob job because I felt that insecure about them. I would constantly compare my boobs to those of other girls and find myself lacking. A couple of male mates once ranked me and my girl friends in terms of how nice our boobs were - and I came last, which made me feel pretty bad ... but then they ranked us for how good our bums were, and I came out on top! So I shifted my focus - I may not have had the biggest boobs in the world, but I had a great bum! So when the other girls were low cut tops, I wore tight skirts. When they danced and shimmied their shoulders, I shimmied my hips. And I found out that there are a heck of a lot of men in the world who appreciate a good bum more than they care about boob size!

So basically, although it might seem that you are somehow lacking because of one physical asset, you have others which are probably fantastic, but because you obsess about one body part, you forget about the others. Try emphasising another asset and see if you feel any more confident. Do you have nice shapely legs, for example? If you do, get them out! You may well find that other girls who have bigger boobs will be jealous of your legs and wish they were more like you - and there are plenty of men around who love a bit of leg ...

Although it seems that society and in particular male society will judge a girl on the size of their boobs, just remember that it's a minority that actually do, and they're the ones without two brain cells to rub together. The media appeals to the Lowest Common Denominator when it presents its view of idealised feminine beauty, but most of the people you come across every day will not belong to that category!

Speaking as a man (and I hope my wife doesn't read this) I just like boobs! It doesn't matter whether they're big or small, they are just lovely things!

Viva boobies!

Very very good point there Fleur, guys LOVE bums :yes:

I always felt mine was big compared to the rest of my figure but several guys have mentioned that they like it ops: I wont tell you what they said!!!!

My body shape seems to have changed slightly with me being unwell....im now 32-23-34....usually 33 or 34-24-35....tis weird. Dont know if I like it :worried:

I ALWAYS wanted to have lovely long legs though...(just like Fleurs >_< ) you always want what you dont have :lol:


Axx

Originally Posted by Lord Dashwood

Speaking as a man (and I hope my wife doesn't read this)

Quick, somebody call Lady Jay!

Originally Posted by Lord Dashwood

I just like boobs! It doesn't matter whether they're big or small, they are just lovely things!

Viva boobies!

Most men I know ascribe to this point of view ^_^

I think a lot of women (and men) will go to great lengths to tell you what men do or don't like but if you ask me, men aren't a big lump that's all the same... there will be men who love 'watermelons' (hehe!) and others who prefer two peas on an ironing board or anywhere in between. To say that all men prefer big boobs is like saying all men prefer blondes. Besides, just because someone has a particular physical preference doesn't mean that that is the only type they would like at all. Aesthetically speaking I prefer my men with tattoos but i have dated a lot of men who have none and although it's a preference it's by no means the be all and end all.

Besides the thing with big boobs is that they don't stay pert for nearly as long in life as smaller ones do (well, implants aside)... i am now living in constant dread for the day that mine drop!

I find all the focus that's placed on boobs so strange...

There's no range to distinguish a tall person from a short person, it's all based on averages. Likewise with body parts - where's the line betweena big pair of eyes and a small pair of eyes?

The Daily Mail claims that the average bra size in a 36C... but whatever.

My boobs are smaller than average, but I never feel I'm being judged by them. In fact, I'm kind of relieved that I don't get the animalistic, testosterone-fuelled attention that women with a plump cleavage on show sometimes seem to attract. I'd hate for a (wo)man to shout "PHWOAR! NICE RACK, LOVE!" at me as I walked past... and women that receive this kind of attention regularly must get frustrated by it.

I'd hate to be reduced to a pair of boobs. I see myself and my body as a complete package rather than a pile of individual parts.

This said, (wo)men do still stare at my chest... but it's my tattoo rather than my boobs that they're looking at... and the ones that *really* stare are usually those I'm having a conversation with... and when they realise that I may be misconstruing their stare as a stare at my boobsicles, they tend to get rather embarrassed (more so than I ever get!).

I feel uncomfortable talking about my boobs without talking about the rest of my body.

Tallula, who do you feel is judging you? Society? Men? Women? The media? Yourself?

Originally Posted by Amethyst

My body shape seems to have changed slightly with me being unwell....im now 32-23-34....usually 33 or 34-24-35....tis weird. Dont know if I like it :worried:

I would say, that's only an inch you've lost all over - but an inch or two can make a lot of difference to how you look and feel, as I well know. Most people probably won't notice the difference in you, unless they see you every day - but you know and that's what counts, right? Don't get too hung up on it - you've been ill, and probably stressed, and that has a massive bearing on your weight. You'll put some on once you recover properly ^_^

Originally Posted by Amethyst

I ALWAYS wanted to have lovely long legs though...(just like Fleurs >_< ) you always want what you dont have :lol:

I only have short legs, I'm only 5'5''! I must have a freakishly short body ^_^

I used to have reeeally big boobs (38DD!!) but then i used to be bigger than I am (size 20!) and since I've lost weight, I've lost a lot off my boobs and they're now a 32a!

I didn't mind either, when I was bigger, I liked bigger boobs as I was so unconfident about the rest of my body that I liked to have something sexy to focus on. Now I'm smaller, my bum has pretty much stayed the same and I like to focus on that as it gets a lot of compliments - heehee!

I don't understand why some women feel the need to consider themselves beautiful based on what the media says.

I also reckon other women are the most critical - how many times have you said - oh my god, if I had a bum like that woman over there I would NOT wear those trousers - harsh but true. In Burlesque, everyone seems to be thoroughly supportive of everyone else, regardless of shape or size, and I love it (coming from a dance background where we were expected to be size 0 twiglets, it's very refreshing!)

Men like women in all shapes and sizes and we shouldn't feel inadequite because we're not all like Kelly Brook!