Thread: Anxiety and depression and panics oh my!

Originally Posted by candy jayne

The ways of our parents seriously affect us, it's just what we sometimes choose to do about it that changes.

Absobloominglutely, though sometimes knowing what you should do about it and doing that takes a long, long time......I'm having a major breakthrough in counselling at the mo....I've finally realised I actually feel sorry for my mother despite everything and am ready to forgive her. I now realise that she has no hold on me. Which to any sane person, they'd have worked out decades ago.....but it's taken a lot of time and effort

Originally Posted by tempest devyne

Absobloominglutely, though sometimes knowing what you should do about it and doing that takes a long, long time......I'm having a major breakthrough in counselling at the mo....I've finally realised I actually feel sorry for my mother despite everything and am ready to forgive her. I now realise that she has no hold on me. Which to any sane person, they'd have worked out decades ago.....but it's taken a lot of time and effort

You my dear are a far better person than me. I couldnt bring myself to forgive my parents.


I hope you continue to do so well sweetie you deserve big hugs

Originally Posted by Fleur du Mal

Those are very wise words ...

thanks Fleur xx

Originally Posted by candy jayne

You my dear are a far better person than me. I couldnt bring myself to forgive my parents.

I hope you continue to do so well sweetie you deserve big hugs

I'm sure I'm not and if you'd asked me last year if I ever could forgive them I'd have laughed in your face and said of course not. I don't understand what's changed to be honest.....although I'm in pretty intensive therapy at the mo....I've also had four decades of hate, so you never know you still might have time....or might never forgive them - one of my friends is 60 and she can't forgive her parents.....she has come to an understanding of why they di what they did, but can't get to a place where she can forgive (and I'm deffo not saying that people have to forgive....I just seem to have reached that point, each of us is different and had different things done to us). I just got to a point where I understood why my mother did things to me (she is also manic depressive but it is all hidden and swept under the carpet and suppressed, except the few times it exploded and she was taken away for treatment, and she had a very difficult childhood too, far worse than the one she gave me, though that would make most people blanche) and also I can now look at her, and I can now see a sad, pathetic, old woman in the place of this woman who did everything in her power mental and physical to control me, and I actually feel sorry for her (which is an amazing change from the hatred).....so I can't explain how that change happened and I deffo don't say anyone else needs to get to this point, we're all different and have to find our own ways of coping.

Defiantely!! i had a succesful session today with North Tyneside rape crisis. First one ever!!