Thread: Anyone else need a hug?

I had a bit of a funny day yesterday too. Must have been for everyone. It was great at our southern meet up, but before and after I was a bit upset.

It all got sorted out in the end though- things always do.

And you know we all love you Tempest :hug: I'm glad you're feeling a bit better. You're definitely one of the loveliest people on here :yes:

(I know I already replied with hugs but I was a bit sleepy and couldn't articulate very well so gave up and just put hugs)

Originally Posted by Miss D

I could've done with a hug yesterday; actually, to be honest, if anyone did, I probably would've burst into tears, so probably best not. It's a minor thing really.

I usually have a reasonable grasp of what makes me tick. I have no real issue with people taking snaps of me, it's sorta real life, innit. Photos are good memories of events, and while I'm not the greatest exhibitionist, I don't go all gurly and hide.

However yesterday I got the real jitters about having professional photos taken, and I have no idea why - well actually I think I do, but it's a bit silly. It's been bothering me all day. It's something I shoud've relished, but kinda froze. Deb was truly great though - can't commend her highly enough.

Perhaps I'm not as confident as I thought, but it's thrown me a bit. Perhaps I need to invest in a full-length mirror in my tiny flat so I get more used to seeing me. Dunno. I suppose I get protective of myself in situations where I might end up... disappointed. Which I'm sure I won't be, but y'know. I waited with much dread and trepidation when my last workshop photos arrived, and they turned out OK, despite 'filing' the CD away and waiting several weeks to look at them.

Anyway, sorry about that, but I think that expressing it 'out loud' helped.

I'm glad saying it out loud helped. Crying's not a bad thing...

I think I might know a bit of what you're feeling, and I couldn't get my head around it properly either. Deb and Steve are truely marvellous and I had my first professional photshoot with them in the middle of last year.

At the beginning of last year I was only just beginning to like myself again. And I haven't had photos taken of myself for decades. Deb and Steve were brilliant and understood the issues I was coming to terms with.....and they were very complimentary, saying I'd done really well. But I felt wooden, and unhappy with the way I'd 'performed'. I too felt I should have absolutely relished the opportunity and beat myself for not being jubilant and not making the most of the opportunity.

Perhaps you saying that if anyone had hugged you, you would have cried, and you view that as a bad thing.....it might indicate that you might need to let go a bit more (forgive my drunken stabs at psychology)....do you perhaps always try and stay in control? To show a certin front? Oh shut up Tempest.

So don't be hard on yourself, I'm sure the photos are going to be absolutely gorgeous. And if anything, yesterday's experience might be a starting point for new discoveries or a new journey to tackle something a bit painful in your life

Ok I really am going to shut up now - but here's a big hug :hug: oh poo I've run out of smilies allowance

Originally Posted by tempest devyne

Oh darling - and yet you keep going....thank you!

Well, there are little things scattered around that keep me going... horses (even though one kicked my foot on friday and I had to go and see a doctor...), all the glittery and glamorous stuff I make, good bands having gigs, my very first burlesque workshop next thursday... and MOB hugs of course!

:hug::hug:

Originally Posted by tempest devyne

you big noodle, why didn't you come and get a hug then.....don't give me any of the stoical 'I'm Fleur I'm fine' business.

Well, actually, it was because I didn't see this thread until now! It never really occurred to me ... But I got a real life hug or two, so it was OK!

Originally Posted by tempest devyne

We love you.....well I do, and I'm pretty sure lots of others do too. I love your foot-in-mouthness, it makes me smile and if people read enough of your posts they can see past the rather brusque (is that a real word?) front you put on and see the lovely caring person you are.....and god you make me laugh!!! If anyone has fault with you they'll have to deal with me first (and be warned tonight I'm a rather tipsy Northern-chick with my dukes up....puddam up....pudddddam up......

*big smiles* That's nice to know ... ^_^

Originally Posted by Miss D

'However yesterday I got the real jitters about having professional photos taken, and I have no idea why - well actually I think I do, but it's a bit silly. It's been bothering me all day. It's something I shoud've relished, but kinda froze. Deb was truly great though - can't commend her highly enough.

Perhaps I'm not as confident as I thought, but it's thrown me a bit. Perhaps I need to invest in a full-length mirror in my tiny flat so I get more used to seeing me. Dunno. I suppose I get protective of myself in situations where I might end up... disappointed. Which I'm sure I won't be, but y'know. I waited with much dread and trepidation when my last workshop photos arrived, and they turned out OK, despite 'filing' the CD away and waiting several weeks to look at them.

Oh eck lovey, don't worry about that! I absolutely detested getting my picture taken for years and years and years - to the point where I would deliberately not look at the camera in school photos and then skive the day I was supposed to pick them up ...

Not relishing a photoshoot as much as you hoped you would is completely understandable. You were putting yourself into a position which was outside your comfort zone - and you should be proud that you gave it a go. And remember - you will always think the pictures are worse than they are, because they're of you, and through your own eyes any of your perceived 'flaws' are magnified tenfold. You might look at some and think 'horrible' - others will think 'fabulous'. Get an objective opinion (or that of your bf, not exactly objective but guaranteed to be positive!) and you'll soon see that it was more successful than you think. Photos get us all - heck, I do regular photoshoots and I still get pictures back that I think are just horrendous! Some I don't let see the light of day!

Originally Posted by tempest devyne

Perhaps you saying that if anyone had hugged you, you would have cried, and you view that as a bad thing.....it might indicate that you might need to let go a bit more (forgive my drunken stabs at psychology)....do you perhaps always try and stay in control? To show a certin front? Oh shut up Tempest.

It was a bad thing in the sense that I had lots of splendid slap on, hair done, fab false eyelashes (after the splendid workshop) and was about to have pictures taken - so on a practical front, it was a good idea I kept my composure otherwise it could have all gone horribly pear-shaped! But yes, I do try and keep control, because I'm sensible, and practical, and together, and organised... innit.

And if someone would have asked what was wrong, I wouldn't have been able to say, because I didn't really know. I suppose now I could've summed it up as 'Because I'm afraid I just look s**t and feel stupid!!'

Whch is all odd, because now I really am quite at peace with myself, which is why it threw me. Hidden gremlins, I suppose. I felt quite emotional at my burlesque workshop before christmas, but I put that down to being bloody tired and worn out after a stressful week - I fely bloody stupid then too. Lots of Rosé got me in the mood.

Maybe I do need to let go more. Which is probably why I drink! lol Maybe I'm at peace with some things, but maybe not with others.

Ho hum. Drunken stabs at psychology are always welcome. :kiss: I don't get to talk about stuff that often.

Originally Posted by Fleur du Mal

Oh eck lovey, don't worry about that! I absolutely detested getting my picture taken for years and years and years - to the point where I would deliberately not look at the camera in school photos and then skive the day I was supposed to pick them up ...

Not relishing a photoshoot as much as you hoped you would is completely understandable. You were putting yourself into a position which was outside your comfort zone - and you should be proud that you gave it a go. And remember - you will always think the pictures are worse than they are, because they're of you, and through your own eyes any of your perceived 'flaws' are magnified tenfold. You might look at some and think 'horrible' - others will think 'fabulous'. Get an objective opinion (or that of your bf, not exactly objective but guaranteed to be positive!) and you'll soon see that it was more successful than you think. Photos get us all - heck, I do regular photoshoots and I still get pictures back that I think are just horrendous! Some I don't let see the light of day!

Cheers chuck.

I get bothered about stuff when I can't work out why it's bothering me. I'm just not used to it! x

Originally Posted by Miss D

It was a bad thing in the sense that I had lots of splendid slap on, hair done, fab false eyelashes (after the splendid workshop) and was about to have pictures taken - so on a practical front, it was a good idea I kept my composure otherwise it could have all gone horribly pear-shaped!

Ah....fair comment. You could have always done an alternative shoot? Emo-lesque:

lol! You're splendid!

I think that slightly summed-up my look this morning though...

Cool pic, Tempest! :winkgrin: *giggles*