Thread: is this really what people are like?!?!

So I've just had an extremely disheartening experience with a boy, which is not a new thing in and of itself, but I am having trouble believing that people are actually like this. I have been told, however, that in Scotland at least it is fairly common.
There was a guy I'd chatted to online etc. for ages, we got on very well, so he came for a 3-day visit. All went well, we had a great time, he was a gentleman through and through so far as I could tell, and the weekend ended with him talking about coming again and saying we should visit Prague together.
Call me crazy, but I assumed he had had a good time.

Now he's ignoring any emails/texts I have sent, and though I should really just move on (and will, soon) I am stuck, baffled, because I just can't see the point in being *that* much of an arse to someone. Why bother pretending?
Is this something you have run in to before?
It is going to take me a few days to actually believe he's being such a jerk, as when I think of what he was like while he was here I can't reconcile the two.

Sorry for the pathetic rant, I'm just fed up.

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Aww, I'm sorry to hear that hun. Unfortunately it seems a lot of people are going about their day to day business without having grown a spine.

I know it's a cliche, and that it's easier said than done, but it's his loss, he's a fool and you're worth far better than stupid high school game-playing. Keep yer chin up and be prepared for him to come crawling back to you at some point in the future when he realises what a silly boy he's been by treating you this way.

Hope you're okay and not too fed up!

Thanks dear... I am indeed okay, I mean, in perspective I hardly know the guy anyway!
I think I might immortalise his idiocy in a song today, and distribute it to everyone on my mailing list. Fitting retribution I say.

Originally Posted by bellephoto

So I've just had an extremely disheartening experience with a boy, which is not a new thing in and of itself, but I am having trouble believing that people are actually like this. I have been told, however, that in Scotland at least it is fairly common.
There was a guy I'd chatted to online etc. for ages, we got on very well, so he came for a 3-day visit. All went well, we had a great time, he was a gentleman through and through so far as I could tell, and the weekend ended with him talking about coming again and saying we should visit Prague together.
Call me crazy, but I assumed he had had a good time.

Now he's ignoring any emails/texts I have sent, and though I should really just move on (and will, soon) I am stuck, baffled, because I just can't see the point in being *that* much of an arse to someone. Why bother pretending?
Is this something you have run in to before?
It is going to take me a few days to actually believe he's being such a jerk, as when I think of what he was like while he was here I can't reconcile the two.

Sorry for the pathetic rant, I'm just fed up.

Yes been there and worn the t-shirt sweetie know how your feeling. What a j**k you deseve better than this. Men honestly why do they play these childish games. Chin up and think you are soooo much better off with out this guy. P***k.Lol xxx:hug:

Originally Posted by bellephoto

So I've just had an extremely disheartening experience with a boy, which is not a new thing in and of itself, but I am having trouble believing that people are actually like this. I have been told, however, that in Scotland at least it is fairly common.
There was a guy I'd chatted to online etc. for ages, we got on very well, so he came for a 3-day visit. All went well, we had a great time, he was a gentleman through and through so far as I could tell, and the weekend ended with him talking about coming again and saying we should visit Prague together.
Call me crazy, but I assumed he had had a good time.

Now he's ignoring any emails/texts I have sent, and though I should really just move on (and will, soon) I am stuck, baffled, because I just can't see the point in being *that* much of an arse to someone. Why bother pretending?
Is this something you have run in to before?
It is going to take me a few days to actually believe he's being such a jerk, as when I think of what he was like while he was here I can't reconcile the two.

Sorry for the pathetic rant, I'm just fed up.

That sort of thing has happened to me too and it sucks!!!!!

Leave him to it, he'll soon come crawling back saying he was wrong etc and you will have the perfect opportunity to tell him where to go. You're far too good for a loser like that sweetie.

It could be that he's dating other girls but by ignoring you rather than dumping you or being honest, he's hoping to keep you on the back-burner for when he realises what a fool he's been. That's what has happened to me anyway!!!

I don't think men ever really know what they want until it's tooooo late. Most of the guys I've dated suffer from a severe case of 'the grass is always greener somewhere else' syndrome. Until they realise that actually it isn't after all.

kisses
PixieParasol

ps - loving the tags that you've added to this thread!!!!

I'd like to stick up for some of us guys, we are not all bastards. However this guys sounds like a grade A twat.

Originally Posted by Master_Méfier

I'd like to stick up for some of us guys, we are not all bastards. However this guys sounds like a grade A twat.

I agree, there are LOTS of lovely guys out there and I don't want to tar them all with the same brush. Let's hear it for the nice guys....whoop whoop!!!

kisses
PixieParasol

Ahh. The 'Bullshit One-Night Stand'.

Basically there are two types of shit. Ones that get you drunk, sleep with you and slink off in the morning after leaving you a false telephone number and a muttered 'I'll call you'. We can deal with those. In fact, sometimes they are preferable to the ones that want to stay for breakfast and chat

Then there are the Bullshitters. The ones who love the thrill of the chase, the seduction...those are the ones that woo you, that listen to you, that take you for dinner and treat you like a lady. They get off on the romance you see...and you think he is sweet for not sleeping with you straight away, that it somehow will mean more to him because you've waited, or chatted online for ages. THEY are the real bastards. They don't care about you, they just spin a line and manipulate you so YOU think you are seducing them, and that you are in control.

They are difficult to spot, in fact they are nigh on impossible. They never tell you to your face, and they never give off the body language and subtle give-aways that your average one-nighter does.

Give me an honest shit any time. I'd much rather have someone say 'I'm only in this for sex and a bit of a laugh, please don't take it as anything else or it will go horribly wrong', than someone who can't face up to the truth.

Originally Posted by Wicca'd Witch

Give me an honest shit any time. I'd much rather have someone say 'I'm only in this for sex and a bit of a laugh, please don't take it as anything else or it will go horribly wrong', than someone who can't face up to the truth.

So London at the end of the month then? I'm not looking for love or anything :P.
I didn't know you were on here darling.

Hahah, hilarious.

I have heard that there are nice boys out there, but in my experience they are all either a) gay, b) only pretending or c) taken.

Sigh.

I was hoping someone might have a bullshit-detecting tip, but it sounds like everyone's been treated like this! So thanks for the commiseration, all.

I'm looking forward to the day he comes crawling back... I think I might invite him out to Glasgow (he lives 3 hours away) and then just tell him off.

xx